Life is good, but you can nearly miss it

It’s about time I reprise this blog. For way too long, I have felt as if I didn’t have anything worth writing.  I worried too much about what people would think about my writing, if anyone at all was reading and thinking too much about a blog being like a business.

This blog is not my job. This blog is my creative outlet.

Not long ago, a co-worker said that she was asked to describe her co-workers. I don’t know the context of the conversation, but what my co-worker shared has stayed with me. She said that she described me as someone who isn’t afraid of trying something new and that she wishes she could be like that.

What? Really? Me? I tend to think that I am someone who is indecisive and has to think everything out before making a decision…sometimes to the point of making the decision so big that it becomes pointless. Am I this fearless person she sees in me? Have I been worrying too long that people think negatively of me and think it’s impossible for someone to think something positive of me?

When talking with her, I told her that I, indeed, feel fear when I try new things. I have shared my story with joining The Little Black Dress Club many times – that I worried myself so much that I made my co-worker (another co-worker than the aforementioned co-worker), go with me just in case I felt like I didn’t belong, needed someone to talk to or wanted to escape. By the end of the night, I had found my people and officially joined the club that night when I got home. That was 2 1/2 years ago, and I am still loving the adventures that I experience with the club and the friends I have made within this amazing group of women.

I took a chance, and as weird as it may sound, sometimes I still feel like I take a chance when I sign up for events. If you only knew how many “What Ifs” go through my head before an event, you would think that I am a crazy person.

Okay, don’t comment on that last statement…unless you must.

I often try to talk myself out of new experiences before the time comes to actually be involved in the experience. It’s part social anxiety, part low self-esteem, part introversion, part who the heck know what else. Those negative thoughts comes from all sorts of places and presents itself in all sorts of ways.

But you know what? Every time I go through with it, I have experienced an adventure.

I may not feel like I am that fearless person my co-worker sees in me, but it’s there somewhere deep inside me. Any time I do something that scares me, even just a little, it’s an adventure. And that’s how I am going to start seeing life. Just like this blog tag line has read from the beginning, “…life is good but you can nearly miss it.”

I don’t want to miss out on life. Will you join me in my adventures?

4 years ago, I took a left turn onto a dirt road in the desert of Arizona.  By.myself!  I was scared as the road twisted, turned and went up and down hills. At the end was one of the most beautiful views I have seen in my life. This was the beginning of many adventures, and I always go back to this memory when I worry about fear.

4 years ago, I took a left turn onto a dirt road in the desert of Arizona.ALONE!

I was scared as the road twisted, turned and went up and down hills. At the end was one of the most beautiful views I have seen in my life. This was the beginning of many adventures, and I always go back to this memory when I worry about fear.





31 Days of Nashville – Little Black Dress Club

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While it’s not exclusive to Nashville, I am part of the Nashville Chapter of the Little Black Dress Club. I joined this time last year, but it has been a very full year of new experiences, new adventures and new friends. I first looked into joining about a year prior to actually going to an event. I found the club through Meetup and watched for their events, but they never seemed to be during times that I could go or social anxiety would get the best of me, and I would fear not feeling like I fit in.

My first event was a simple game night at the home of one of the co-directors. I made my co-worker go with me so that I would have someone to talk to just in case I felt out of place. Within the first hour, all those fears were gone, and I knew I had found a great group of women that I’d enjoy getting to know.

The Little Black Dress Club has been a great way to get me out of the house and go places that I probably wouldn’t go on my own. Some people find it hard to believe that I am an introvert, but there are times that I will try to talk myself out of going places (club events and just other general things going on in life that I MIGHT have a choice in attending). I know that most of the time I will have a good time once I actually get out of the house, but taking that first step out the door is by far the hardest sometimes. I can go on and on about being an introvert, and I actually have written about it on more than a few occasions. I’m not saying that the Little Black Dress Club has “cured” me of being an introvert, because there’s nothing wrong AT ALL with being an introvert, but I am thankful when I do go out and have experiences that I wouldn’t have had if I let it get the best of me and stayed home.

The past few months, I’ve broadened my experiences with the club by going on a multi-chapter road trip to Chicago to meet other members from other chapters, like Columbus, Detroit and Chicago. In addition to the Chicago trip, we’ve also went Glamping, wine tasting, had several Girl’s Night Out dinners, and a few brunches. Just to give you an idea of some other events we’ve had in Nashville and the other chapters, be sure to check out the blog. I happen to know one of the contributors of the blog very well…ahem, it’s me 🙂

So if you don’t live in Nashville, there might be a chapter near you. And if you decide to join, let me know and maybe we can road trip to visit your chapter or invite you to one of the Nashville Chapter events when you’re in town!

This post is part of a series I am writing, 31 Days of Nashville, where I am introducing several awesome places that make Nashville a great place to live and visit. Each day of the week has a different theme, and I am trying to focus on those hidden gems that aren’t as well known but just as worthy. 

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The Little Black Dress Club & The Windy City

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You think you know someone pretty well, but then you spend two 9-hour bus rides, two nights in a hostel and walk 20 miles with them, and you see a whole other side of that personthe good, the bad, the ugly and the fabulous. For three days in June, the Nashville, Columbus and Detroit Chapters traveled to Chicago for a multi chapter event with the Little Black Dress Club ladies of the Chicago Southland Chapter to explore The Windy City.

To read more about my trip to Chicago with The Little Black Dress Club, read my post at The Little Black Dress Club Blog.

Inside My Introvert Bubble

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Today I am stepping out of my introvert bubble and finally going on one of the Little Black Dress Club outings. For more than a year, I’ve been thinking about joining our local chapter of the Little Black Dress Club but their events were always on days that I had other plans…or I found a reason not go, not because I didn’t want to go but because I let my fears get the best of me. This time I was able to talk my extroverted co-worker into going with me so that I will know at least one person. I know it will be good for me to get out and socialize, and I almost always have a good time when I step out of my comfort zone. Without a doubt it will be exhausting on me, but I have no other plans tomorrow so I will have time to go back into my introvert bubble to re-energize.

This is my reminder that I always have a good time when I get out with other people. It’s just that the time before it actually happens is filled with anxiety, doubt, fear and worry. I won’t let it get to me today!