The Praise Project

Last week I embarked on a project with my friend, Rebekah at We Live Inspired, called The Praise Project. The idea was solely Rebekah’s, and she asked me if I would be interested in participating with her. We exchanged emails for a few weeks about the project, such as ideas, rules and plans.

Rebekah came up with these rules for The Praise Project:

  1. I will try to use my words to only say positive things, kind things, speak praises over people, compliment them and let them know how I feel or how much I appreciate them.
  2. I will reach out to people and let them know how important they are, how I appreciate them and also freely give compliments. I am going to make a point to say everything food I notice about people this week. 
  3. I may have to wear a rubber band around my wrist or something to remind myself because my goal is to not utter one derogatory thing to the people I come in contact with.
  4. If an issue arises that needs to be addressed that may not be in a positive light, I will address it but try to be mindful of how I am responding.
  5. I will take notes on a pocket notepad, on my phone or computer so that I can document what happens around me during the project. 
  6. I can achieve these actions in various ways. The most effective will be in person, but also phone calls, texts, email, Facebook, etc. all counts.
  7. Finally, I will keep this project a secret! 

Goal: To spread sunshine around and hopefully bring joy to people. I am interested to see if it improves morale in the environments I am in and how this affects all of the relationships around me. 

Please join me at We Live Inspired as I write about my experiences with The Praise Project.

 

During the month of November, I am participating in the National Blog Posting Month, also known as NaBloPoMo, hosted by BlogHer. Most likely I am following these suggested prompts, but I might just get crazy and change things up every once in a while. I’m one wild and crazy gal! 

NaBloPoMo November 2012

Compliments

Talk about the last compliment you received.

The last compliment that I received was from my co-worker, noting that my weight loss is really starting to show. I’ve gotten similar comments lately from others, including my husband, other co-workers, family and comments on Facebook. Their words definitely made me feel good, but I rarely take compliments well.

I’m pretty sure that not being able to take compliments well is part of having a low self esteem and only seeing one’s faults. Without a doubt, I am guilty of this, but probably no more than most women are. We have this horribly high standard that we feel that we must live up to when it comes to areas of life like beauty, expectations and accomplishments that we feel like when we’re complimented that we don’t deserve it because we’re still not good enough.

Do you know what is going through my head when someone compliments my weight loss? That I should have lost more weight by now, that I’m not exercising like I should and I’m not eating under my calorie goal most days. I could be doing better. I’m only thinking of my failures and not my successes. It’s negative self-talk.

I’m part of a work-sponsored weight management program, and we recently had a speaker discuss this topic. The speaker talked about ways we talk ourselves out of  exercising or eating right by putting ourselves down. While he didn’t speak directly of compliments, the same information applies. What caught me by surprise was not how true the information provided to us was or how many of the other members of the audience identified with what the speaker was saying or that we all were able to provide specific examples. What caught me by surprise was that his PowerPoint Presentation was Copyrighted 1995. Seeing that date from 17 years ago made me realize that this problem really hasn’t gotten better. It was a problem then, and it’s still a problem now. His presentation may have been dated but was not out of date.

I want to learn to take compliments well and be grateful for all the good that comes from someone speaking positive to me, but I also need to learn to compliment myself with positive self-talk, as well. I also want to focus on encouraging others through positive compliments. It can only make the world at least a little bit better, right?

Do you take compliments well? Are you one to compliment others easily? Are you guilty of negative self-talk?

During the month of November, I am participating in the National Blog Posting Month, also known as NaBloPoMo, hosted by BlogHer. Most likely I am following these suggested prompts, but I might just get crazy and change things up every once in a while. I’m one wild and crazy gal! 

NaBloPoMo November 2012