Compliments

Talk about the last compliment you received.

The last compliment that I received was from my co-worker, noting that my weight loss is really starting to show. I’ve gotten similar comments lately from others, including my husband, other co-workers, family and comments on Facebook. Their words definitely made me feel good, but I rarely take compliments well.

I’m pretty sure that not being able to take compliments well is part of having a low self esteem and only seeing one’s faults. Without a doubt, I am guilty of this, but probably no more than most women are. We have this horribly high standard that we feel that we must live up to when it comes to areas of life like beauty, expectations and accomplishments that we feel like when we’re complimented that we don’t deserve it because we’re still not good enough.

Do you know what is going through my head when someone compliments my weight loss? That I should have lost more weight by now, that I’m not exercising like I should and I’m not eating under my calorie goal most days. I could be doing better. I’m only thinking of my failures and not my successes. It’s negative self-talk.

I’m part of a work-sponsored weight management program, and we recently had a speaker discuss this topic. The speaker talked about ways we talk ourselves out of  exercising or eating right by putting ourselves down. While he didn’t speak directly of compliments, the same information applies. What caught me by surprise was not how true the information provided to us was or how many of the other members of the audience identified with what the speaker was saying or that we all were able to provide specific examples. What caught me by surprise was that his PowerPoint Presentation was Copyrighted 1995. Seeing that date from 17 years ago made me realize that this problem really hasn’t gotten better. It was a problem then, and it’s still a problem now. His presentation may have been dated but was not out of date.

I want to learn to take compliments well and be grateful for all the good that comes from someone speaking positive to me, but I also need to learn to compliment myself with positive self-talk, as well. I also want to focus on encouraging others through positive compliments. It can only make the world at least a little bit better, right?

Do you take compliments well? Are you one to compliment others easily? Are you guilty of negative self-talk?

During the month of November, I am participating in the National Blog Posting Month, also known as NaBloPoMo, hosted by BlogHer. Most likely I am following these suggested prompts, but I might just get crazy and change things up every once in a while. I’m one wild and crazy gal! 

NaBloPoMo November 2012

 

If I was President

If you were President of the United States, what would be your first act in office?

First of all, let me preface this by saying that I can’t believe that I am posting this. I highly dislike talking about politics, and to be honest, I’m actually afraid of some of the comments that I might get from this post.

Second, a dream of being President is about as far away from any desirable occupation that I can possibly imagine. There is way too much stress and responsibility involved. Being President ages someone fast. Just look at the last few Presidents we’ve had at the beginning and end of their 4 or 8 year terms and see how much they aged in that time period. I can’t imagine why anyone would truly WANT to be President. Not me!

But the question isn’t if I WANT to be President.

If I were President of the Unites States, my first project would be working on the budget and attempting to balance it to cut down on borrowing money just to keep running the country. Sounds simple, eh? Well, I have no doubt that it’s incredibly complicated, which is why I say that it would be a project to work on, not an act to pass immediately. This would probably include limiting our military presence in foreign countries, and only staying in the areas that are a direct threat to our country.

My first act would be to allow marriage equality between two consenting adults, regardless of sex or gender. I’m a Christian, and I grew up in a Christian home, however I don’t feel that marriage must be between a man and a woman. I don’t like calling it ‘gay marriage’, either, because really it’s just marriage no matter who the partners are. I don’t believe that allowing people who want to make a commitment to one another will destroy the sanctity of marriage when the sanctity of marriage wasn’t perfect even before some states allowed marriage to all. I don’t believe that churches should be forced to support or condone this, but they should be given the choice whether or not they would perform marriage ceremonies.

Are you still reading? This is really tough for me to write, because I usually avoid most political questions, conversations or debates. If you want to comment and say that I’m wrong or crazy or out of my mind, I probably won’t comment back. I’m not writing this for a debate. This is just my own thoughts and opinions. I am far from qualified to be President or to make these kinds of decisions for the people of my country.

Do you think you would be a good President? What changes would you make? What would you keep the same?

During the month of November, I am participating in the National Blog Posting Month, also known as NaBloPoMo, hosted by BlogHer. Most likely I am following these suggested prompts, but I might just get crazy and change things up every once in a while. I’m one wild and crazy gal! 

NaBloPoMo November 2012

Presidential Election

What are your thoughts about tomorrow’s election in the United States?

Let me start off by saying that I have already voted. I have been a fan of Early Voting for the last few Presidential elections. It started when I was unable to vote one year due to incredibly long lines, and that night was a family dinner night for a family member’s birthday. All of my other family members had participated in Early Voting. Lesson learned!

I highly dislike discussing politics with anyone, with the occasional exception of my husband. I admittedly do not follow news and politics closely, therefore I never feel very confident that I know enough to bring much to the discussion. Also, it seems that most political discussions end up being more about one person trying to convince the other that their beliefs are the right one and often shaming others who don’t agree. This always seems worse in the 3-6 months before a Presidential election, and it gets so ugly. I try to refrain from making political statements or remarks among friends and social media, but every once in a while I regrettably slip up.

With all that said, I do believe in exercising your right to vote. It doesn’t matter if the candidate you feel is best is the one your parents, spouse, friends, enemies support. It’s your decision! It’s also your decision to share who you voted for, as well. I didn’t share my 2008 Presidential choice with anyone until just recently when I slipped up and told my husband. I have told a few people this time around who I voted for but mostly I’ve kept it to myself.

I think the whole election process needs an overhaul. Do we really need a dual party system? Shouldn’t we take a serious look at those other non-Republican/Democrat candidates? Don’t even get me started on the Electoral College!

Do you vote? Are you in favor of the same candidate as most of the people you’re around most often? 

During the month of November, I am participating in the National Blog Posting Month, also known as NaBloPoMo, hosted by BlogHer. Most likely I am following these suggested prompts, but I might just get crazy and change things up every once in a while. I’m one wild and crazy gal! 

NaBloPoMo November 2012

 

Sunday Scribblings: Heal


On Sundays, I am starting to participate in Sunday Scribblings, a weekly writing prompt challenge. There are no rules within the challenge, however I am imposing the same rules that I follow for Five Minute Friday: Write for five minutes. No editing, revising, or over thinking. Just write.

Today’s Topic: Heal

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How do you truly begin to heal when the pain on the inside has not been fixed? Sure, the wounds can close over, and the scars can begin to fade, but if it still hurts inside you will never heal.

What if you can’t find the remedy to heal the ailment? You’ve searched all over and every time you think you’ve found the cure, the wound tears open again.

When did the trouble begin? You try to remember when the hurt began but never seem to find the cause, therefore you fear that you’ll never find the remedy to heal.

Who caused the misery that you feel? Maybe you know, maybe you only have an idea, maybe it was a mixture of causes or maybe the memory is too old to remember.

Where does the tenderness reside? This you know, but you fear it’s beginning to spread.

Why does it still hurt? Until you can find the Who, What, When, Where and How, it will always hurt and never fully heal, but still you keep trying to find the solution.

Never give up fighting. Never give up seeking. Never give up trying.

Never give up. 

STOP

Read other Sunday Scribblings posts on the topic of ‘Heal’.

During the month of November, I am participating in the National Blog Posting Month, also known as NaBloPoMo, hosted by BlogHer. Most likely I am following these suggested prompts, but I might just get crazy and change things up every once in a while. I‘m one wild and crazy gal! 

NaBloPoMo November 2012

 

There’s No Place Like Home

If you could live anywhere, where would it be?

Sometime around the 5th grade, I became obsessed with all things related to Australia. I collected kangaroos, koala bears, maps, magazines, and anything having anything to do with Australia. I can’t remember what sparked this interest, but I do remember that it was very strong. I would tell people that someday I was going to live in Sydney, Australia and be a lawyer. I’m pretty sure that the lawyer thing came from watching too much L.A. Law, something else that I still can’t explain.

That was my dream: To live in Australia (and be a lawyer).

I’m pretty sure that I had this dream throughout junior high and most of high school, though I wasn’t quite as vocal about it with others, as I realized I might have appeared to be a crazy person. I suppose as I got older, that dream mostly faded when reality set in that my personality was not the type that successful lawyers comprise, and the exoticism of Australia started waning in my mind. My college years were spent about 3 hours away from home in Martin, Tennesse. During those 4 years, I realized just how much I loved living in the Nashville area. I moved back to the Nashville area after graduation and have lived here since.

While I really enjoy traveling to different places like Savannah for our wedding, and love visiting family in the Detroit area, as well as friends in Las Vegas, toward the end of those trips I start to see just how nice it is in Middle Tennessee, and I am ready to go home. My favorite vacation spots usually involve the beach, but as we’ve seen with hurricanes, the beach has it’s problems, as well. Pretty much anywhere one could live will have problems of some sort, such as humidity, tornadoes, snow, cold, heat, hurricanes, earthquakes, and so on.

So while it might be nice to dream of living somewhere else sometime, my heart always goes back to Nashville. It’s where I belong.

Where would you like to call home? Are you where you belong? 

During the month of November, I am participating in the National Blog Posting Month, also known as NaBloPoMo, hosted by BlogHer. Most likely I am following these suggested prompts, but I might just get crazy and change things up every once in a while. I’m one wild and crazy gal! 

NaBloPoMo November 2012

 

Five Minute Friday: Roots

The rules: Write for five minutes. No editing, revising, or over thinking. Just write.

Today’s Topic: Roots

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Each day this month I am posting to Twitter and Facebook something for which I am thankful. This morning before looking at the Five Minute Friday prompt, I wrote,

“‎30 Days of #Thanksgiving, Day 2: I am thankful to have parents who are always there for me & raised me with good values & responsibility.”

When I looked at the prompt for this morning, ideas were already coming to my mind, but nothing was too terribly clear. I decided to go ahead and find a quote about roots to see if that prompted any more clear words for writing. This is the quote I found:

“The greatest gifts you can give your children are the roots of responsibility and the wings of independence.” – Denis Waitley 

I guess this has been God’s way of saying that I have some pretty awesome parents who taught me how important responsibility is. While they have taught me independence, too, I also know that they are still right there behind me to catch me if I fall. Instances like this morning are how God speaks to me. Today he’s showing me that my roots are strong, and I will continue to weather the storms and thrive in the sun.

STOP

P.S. After publishing this post, WordPress reminded me that this makes my 100th Post!

Read other Five Minute Friday posts on the topic of ‘Roots’.

NaBloPoMo November 2012
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Favorite Quotation

Tell us your favorite quotation and why.

Considering that I ended every post for the last 31 Days with a quote or a Bible verse, this is an interesting prompt to start off with in November. The problem I have is that I don’t know if there is one quote that I like more than others. I have numerous quotes that I like, otherwise I wouldn’t have posted them every day for the past month. Picking a favorite is like asking Michelle Duggar to pick her favorite child of 19.

Without a doubt, I can say that I have a favorite Bible verse.
“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” – Philippians 4:13

It’s a comfort verse from me that I have had memorized since I was a child. It’s a wonderful reminder that all we need to do is have faith that Christ will strengthen us for anything that life hands us. When I’m feeling down or need motivation, I think of this verse and remember that I don’t have to rely solely on myself for strength.

Now that I’ve diverted from the quote question long enough, I suppose it’s time for me to make a decision about my favorite quote. While skimming through the quotes that I posted the past month, it hit me that I do, indeed, have a long time favorite quote! It’s actually from a song lyric that spoke to me back in 1994 when Tom Petty’s Wildflowers cd was released. The lyric is from the “Crawling Back To You” song.
“Most things I worry about never happen anyway.” – Tom Petty

While Tom Petty is my favorite musical artist, who knew that such wise words could be sung? We worry about so many things in life that haven’t even happened yet and quite possibly will never happen. I am so guilty of over worrying myself over things out of my control. There have been times that I sing this little line in my head to remind myself not to worry. I’m also really good at reminding others not to worry about things beyond their control, and it usually serves as a great reminder to myself not to let it get to me, as well.

Do you have a favorite quotation, Bible verse or saying that gets you through difficult times? 

During the month of November, I am participating in the National Blog Posting Month, also known as NaBloPoMo, hosted by BlogHer. Most likely I am following these suggested prompts, but I might just get crazy and change things up every once in a while. I’m one wild and crazy gal! 

NaBloPoMo November 2012